Do you use text messages to flirt with guys? Does it work for you? Do you want to learn how to use them to attract men? There are plenty of great dating tips on how to flirt with guys when you’re face-to-face with them, but these days, texting is often our primary means of communication. Use texting the right way and it can be a powerful tool in your arsenal of romantic weapons.

You have to assume that if you receive texts from a guy regularly, you already have him interested in you. The first thing to do is determine how interested he is in him. This will determine your strategy. Here are three likely scenarios and the strategies to use in each:

first date scenario

You’ve only been on one date, but you get a text from the guy first thing in the morning. That’s a great sign, even if he just says something flat like “I had a great time.” If the message is something like that, feel free to encourage him with a response like “Me 2” with one of those winning smiley faces as his “signature.” For a guy, this is just as good as a sexy wink in person, but not overly attractive.

Been dating a while Scenario

Things have started to get romantic and you want to take it to the next level and make him fall in love with you. This is when you need to combine flirting with playing hard to get. In this case, you can use text messages to your advantage carefully in time. If he sends you a message like “What are you doing?” don’t answer. He’ll start to get nervous and wonder if you’ve lost interest. After a while, it will send you another message. Respond to this one and say, “Sorry, I was in the shower. Thinking of you” or something along those lines. That will awaken a million erotic thoughts in your mind.

hot and heavy stage

This can make or break your relationship. If he’s already committed to you and you know it, just do what feels right to you. If it isn’t, then don’t encourage it too much. If his messages turn you on, act shy and shy, but excited. If they’re too suggestive for your taste, you may want to reconsider your relationship. Either he’s just clumsy, which is forgivable, or he’s sleazy, which isn’t. Let yourself be guided by your intuition in this case.

These are just a few scenarios you’ll run into when texting. When using text messages, remember that you’re going to be face to face with the guy sooner or later, so don’t say anything in a message that you don’t want to say in person!