So let’s talk about chastity devices: which one is better, which one will work and which one should you choose?

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… I don’t know… other than to say that the best chastity device is… the one that works for you.

For one thing, there are dozens, maybe dozens of manufacturers, each with their own designs. And while they generally share some similarities, even small differences in style or build quality can make a big difference in the way a man’s body responds to and copes with them.

For example, someone asked me the other day:

“I love your blog, I’ve been following it for a while. Keep up the good work. My question is actually more for John. Have you been having issues with the base ring pressing on your pubic bone during workouts, particularly stretches like knee to knee chest? I sure do and it blocks long-term use. I’d like to know if you found a solution, will it eventually pass or what.” ~JW

The short answer is “no,” but that could be due to a number of factors, including that you don’t do those stretches.

Unfortunately we can only speak in generalities. For some people, the simple plastic CB3000 is a great device, even effective for long-term use; to others, including John, it was next to useless. We tried various gadgets, including a full Tollyboy belt, but we didn’t really have success until we ended up with a Lori #2C, which means we probably invested $1,000 or so in gadgets that were just plain useless.

Is this a waste of money?

Maybe.

But I prefer to have a different vision.

For me it’s about getting what we, John and I, really want out of life. And if you want something bad enough, then no price is too high. No one blinks an eye at someone spending a small (or even large) fortune on golf clubs, fishing tackle, cars, motorcycles, bicycles, or whatever itches for them.

So why should male chastity be any different?

I guess it makes sense to start with a cheaper device like the CB3000 (but they’re still not ‘cheap’) to see if it suits the lifestyle, but the danger in this is that if the device doesn’t do the job then it might may he not be the wiser about the larger lifestyle.

Ultimately, I don’t think there’s a simple answer other than to say “keep trying.”

If you try a device and find that the denial suits you, but the device has some shortcomings, then it’s probably worth taking the time and putting in the effort to get a device that suits your needs (I go into the top five considerations:- Safety, Comfort, Convenience, Safety and Aesthetics — in detail elsewhere).

I’ve always seen all of this as something of a work in progress. Even chastity itself is not an event, but rather a process, and the longer you continue with it, the deeper and more completely you become immersed in it. In that sense, I suppose it’s no different than any other aspect of a good relationship.

I guess the main lesson to be drawn from this is to take your time, slow down, and enjoy it. Get it right and you could set yourself up for a wonderful life to come.