“People are like stained glass, they sparkle and shine when the sun rises, but when the darkness sets, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.” ~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Adversity is one of the least favored words in our vocabulary, but the truth is … it is one of the most important words. Throughout our lives, much of our strength, courage, and endurance come from an adverse time in our lives. And, for some of us, the hardships we’ve had have made us who we are today.

We have all been to “the dark side” (as some call it), that place where no one wants to be, whether due to death, career, health, divorce, etc. We’ve all been through adversity or know someone who has … we’re human. We have all faced difficulties throughout our lives, none of us are exempt. And I know that if it weren’t for the difficulties in my life, I wouldn’t be writing this article. We’ve all heard the saying, “Adversity will make or break you.” Adversity can make or break us, but in order for it not to break you, you have to face life’s difficulties with a different attitude … one of opportunity.

Instead, I choose to remember the quote, “Willingly suffered adversity is the greatest virtue.” You see, the difficulties have to do with how we choose to view them. When we change our view of the adversity of life … strength, courage and endurance will be returned in exchange for what has been weakened by difficulties. Many times what they give you back comes back without knowing it and you are even stronger than before. Look back in your life to the previous adversities you have had, did they make you a stronger person? Did it take you a couple of days, a month, or a year to recognize the changes in yourself? Over time, you realized that you were more confident and courageous!

None of us know what awaits us or what our next challenge in life will be. But, one thing is for sure (which we all have in common) … there will be more difficulties for all of us. No one on this earth is immune from adversity. There may be times when you find yourself muttering under your breath, “Why do they have it so good and I don’t?” Believe me … “they” have had their tests too. And, the reason they can be perceived as “so good” is because they swam through adversity. Whether they swam with the tide or against it, they chose to keep going. The stronger and longer you swim, the stronger you will become and overcoming adversity takes practice and dedication like anything else you are committed to achieving. You don’t become an Olympic swimmer overnight!

Adversity is just that … adversity. And what YOU choose to do with yours is YOUR choice. Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Get Rich Once said, “Every adversity, every failure, and every heartbreak carries with it the seed of equivalent or greater profit.” So what seed will you plant? And there is also an old saying that goes like this: “If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always had.” In other words, many people choose never to pass their tests; instead, they choose to remain stagnant and wallow in their tribulations for years. One thing is for sure, we will never be free from adversity … never … but we can certainly change our perspective when faced with difficulties. Even the most dire circumstances can be changed and used for good, we just have to open our eyes to see that spark of hope before us.

Remember, the cloud of adversity you are going through will disappear when your perspective on the situation changes. But, only if you take the first steps to walk again and keep your head up! No one has an explanation or reason why things are happening in your life except your higher power. All we know is that He doesn’t want you to give up because there is more to accomplish in your life. But YOU have to change your perspective. We can all be there to guide and support you in your first steps, but ultimately, you must take those first steps. Deep down, you have to gather that energy to say, “No more, I will get over this and I deserve to have a life of fulfillment too.”

When you find yourself going through adversity, ask yourself, “Am I only focusing on the negative aspects or am I able to recognize a positive reason for what is happening?” We receive what we perceive. Adversity is what makes the weakened individual strong. Although a test or many tests can change us forever … it is your faith and perspective that will determine the outcome. Even the best get depressed … but through the power of adversity they also choose to win. Many of the most famous role models have stories of extreme homelessness and dire situations to tell, and that is what makes them role models. People look at and admire those who can win. We all know the challenge of the strength it takes to keep moving forward and that is why we look for role models and mentors. If you are struggling in a situation, don’t be afraid to reach out to the role models in your life.

It’s going to be okay … keep swimming … eventually the tide of faith and your perspective will carry you through every storm. And like the tides, we are always changing. Some days may be lower than others, but without water there is no tide … and without adversity there is no growth.

“Often times, God has to close a door in our face, so that then He can open the door through which He wants us to pass.” ~ Catharine Marshall