Is my wife no longer attracted to me? It’s not a question you ever want to hear yourself say. Sadly, it’s one you find yourself wondering about on a daily basis. Her marriage is not the same as it used to be. You know that over time couples tend to drift apart, but this seems different to you. Your wife doesn’t seem that interested in you either physically or emotionally. Perhaps you have asked her about what she is feeling, but she has told you that you are imagining things or that everything is fine. Your heart knows best. Instead of silently wondering if she really has lost interest in you or not, there are signs that will help you determine what exactly is going on. Understanding what signs to look for will help you know where your marriage stands and how her wife really feels about you.

One of the clearest and most obvious signs that your wife is no longer attracted to you is her lack of interest in intimacy. Physical intimacy is an integral part of a happy and fulfilling marriage. If her wife pulls away from her and you suddenly have a series of excuses for why she can’t or won’t be intimate with you, there’s more to it than just having a pounding headache or being too tired. Most likely, she is no longer as attracted to you as she was before. This could be just something physical or it could be related to her emotions. If she doesn’t feel as connected to you as she used to, she will back off in every way.

Does your wife still go out of her way to do little things that make your life easier? Most couples begin their marriages committed to helping their spouse in any way they can. If her wife no longer takes the time to do her laundry or she leaves you wondering what she’s going to have for dinner, don’t assume it’s because her schedule is already too full. She may not be inclined to go out of her way to help you because the attraction just isn’t there. If she doesn’t feel as close to you, she won’t find satisfaction in doing things that benefit you.

One sign that he is losing interest that you may never consider is that when a woman begins to feel less attracted to her husband, she will put less effort into making sure she looks good. Obviously, life has a way of changing our appearance, but when a woman is committed to her marriage, she will usually want to look her best for her husband because she knows it is important to him. If her wife never puts on makeup or wears the same threadbare sweatpants every day, she cares less about you.

If your wife makes countless excuses as to why she can’t spend time alone with you, that’s a sign that the attraction you once felt is gone. Ask your wife out on a date. Tell her you want to take her to a favorite restaurant, and then watch her reaction. If she’s giddy at the prospect of having a nice meal with you, take that as a positive sign. However, if she says that she can’t arrange childcare, that she has a lot of work to do or that she’s not in the mood to go out to eat, that’s a direct reflection of her desire to spend time only with you. If your wife is doing everything in her power to avoid an evening alone with you, her marriage needs attention before it completely falls apart.