Writing wedding vows: vow to never go to bed angry

One of the 10 commandments of marriage is: Never go to bed angry. It’s a good line to add to your vows when writing your own wedding or engagement vows: “I promise I will not put my head on the pillow until we have cleared the air of any disagreements or problems.”

I thought this idea was so important that I included it in the Ten Commandments of Marriage. It’s # 7. I’m going to move it to No. 5 and follow it up with “Do little things for each other” and 8, “Go on dates.”

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The reason I am raising the importance of this vow is that I realize that if you don’t clean the air before going to sleep, then it is more difficult to do little things for each other the next day because there is a tension that interferes with others. Your thoughts.

That tension is there because if you go to bed with all those unresolved emotions, that’s what you sleep on. That’s what wakes you up. You probably won’t even read your vows like I have suggested you do every night.

Reading your vows every night is powerful, but not a magical elixir if you ignore the tension between the two of you.

Don’t worry, if you have unresolved issues between the two of you, then you won’t put your focus where it needs to be the next day. You will be caught in a distraction that could really be dangerous. Or miss opportunities.

But the worst thing is that, whatever the distance that caused the situation, it will continue to grow wider and wider until it appears cavernous, like the Grand Canyon.

At some point you will start adding other things and annoyances to the situation and you will even forget what the real problem was.

One of the reasons I want you and your partner to write your vows together is more than voice a dream of your life together. It is setting in motion a remembered intimate situation that was not at all threatening.

Before even going to bed, work out your differences.

Expressing your frustration, anger, sadness, or disappointment at night will save you time, energy, and mistakes the next day.

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