The very thought of anal play for some can elicit an instant “gross” or “yuck” reaction, especially if you’re one of the many women whose first encounter with analingus has been through a rogue finger poking your butt without prior consent. . However, done correctly between two loving partners, analingus can give you a multitude of wonderful sensations and is also a great introduction to rectal sex.

If you haven’t heard anal play described as analingus, you may be more familiar with the terms “sexual rimming,” “salad tossing,” or “ass licking.” Such crude terms are enough to send any good lady running around with her tail squeezed firmly between her legs, but if you’re curious and open to new adventures, analingus with the right love partner can go from an unpleasant surprise to a very warm and heartwarming one. welcome. surprise.

Quite simply, your anus is lined with many delicate nerve endings, and when these are stimulated by the tickle of a tempting tongue, the result can be quite heavenly. The trick to enjoying these new sensations is to love your butt, overcome any inhibitions, and embrace sexual rimming as an incredibly sensual and intimate act between lovers. It is the total acceptance of the other’s body with no part being off limits that can strengthen bonds and heighten the sensation of eroticism.

Speaking of erotica, another reason why anal play feels so deeply sensual is because the pelvic floor muscles lie just below the surface of the anal area. If you squeeze them now you will notice how your anus contracts slightly, and it is these muscles that are compressed during orgasm. Anal play, including the insertion of sex toys, arouses the pelvic floor muscles and intensifies all erotic sensations.

Is analingus safe?

Like all forms of sex, caution should be exercised when experimenting with anal play. First things first, you have to be clean before the sexual rimming. Make sure you both go to the bathroom beforehand and then take a shower together. Use warm soapy water to thoroughly clean your anus and you can even insert a lightly soapy finger inside.

It’s important to note that despite all your best efforts to clean, there may be times when fecal matter sticks to the anus and the skin around it. Although fecal matter is actually stored in the colon and only passes through the rectum when it is ready to be expelled from the body, traces can sometimes remain in the rectum, anal canal, and anus after a bowel movement, although these can be removed by washing. .

Don’t get too excited about this possibility and don’t get too carried away with cleaning. In fact, you can damage or tear the soft skin tissues of your anus if you use too much force. Instead, use baby wipes, which are great for gently cleaning all the folds of your skin, and you also get the added bonus of their nice smell.

If this still turns you off completely, you might consider using a Dental Dam which is like a condom for your butt. It acts as a latex barrier between your anus and mouth, and while it may not look very sexy, it will protect you from bacteria and viruses like HPV, HIV, and hepatitis.

Talk to your partner beforehand, decide if you are going to be the giver or the taker. Using a dental dam could be the confidence you need to get you on your way to sexual rimming.

How to give anal rimming

When learning how to give anal rimming, or any form of rectal sex, it doesn’t have to be anything you don’t want it to be. Just gently stroking, stroking, and pressing a finger around and into the anal opening is enough for some people. Or it’s the gentle flicker of a delicate tongue in the nerve-filled area of ​​your anus that is simply bliss for others. Analplay definitely doesn’t have to be about penetration. However, if you want to move on to anal sex, analingus is essential to prepare your body for penetration.

Like other forms of oral sex, take your time, relax, and gradually seduce your partner by massaging the inner thighs or the back of the legs. Gradually start licking these areas and use your fingernails to rub around the outside of the bottom. Blow into the anus, then apply gentle pressure by rubbing around the rim.

The greatest satisfaction comes from the tender kisses, the loving licks and the variations of tongue movements circling around and igniting all those wonderfully delicate nerve endings.

If your partner allows it, you can use both hands to open the anus and then point your tongue and insert it in and out. If you use your finger, be careful with your nails, as any rough edges can damage the delicate skin.

anal play positions

If you’re totally new to anal play, positions like doggy style or bending over may seem too vulnerable and too exposed to begin with. If you’re on the receiving end, you can start with regular cunnilingus, then as your body becomes more aroused it can be a natural progression for your partner to slowly lick further south. Just keep in mind that to avoid any bacterial infection, once you hit your butt with your tongue, it can’t go back up into your vagina.

Sideways 69 is a good position to start. Regular 69 can be a little tricky for you to get into a comfortable and accessible position that you both can enjoy, but if you both get on your side, you can massage, lick and suck to your mutual delight.

When you are ready and completely comfortable with the exposure, try any of the following positions:

puppy

Doggy is where the receiver assumes the kneeling doggy position and the giver kneels behind and gently extends each butt control to reveal the anus.

standing leaning

This one is self-explanatory, however you can modify it by having the receiver lean over the edge of a bed or chair to maximize comfort for both parties.

legacy up

In this position, the catcher lies on their back with their legs spread and bent, knees drawn to their chest. The giver lies face down in front. This position can be made more comfortable by having the recipient lie on the edge of the bed and the giver kneel in front.